I kind of feel like I need to write about some things that recently occurred. Yes, the blog is primarily beauty and fashion but I feel that it is also important to “get real” sometimes with more personal posts.
Sadly this beautiful bag which my sister got me was also stolen. I usually use it as my daily bag but that day I went for a smaller bag.
Last month after a particularly tiring day at work I unlocked my apartment and walked in to spot that the sliding door was open as was a cupboard and some drawers. My heart sank and my mind raced through some thoughts “did I leave the sliding door open” “NEVER!” “did I leave those drawers open” Who are you kidding Abby, you’re OCD about closing things”. I then rushed round to the corridor and bedrooms and saw everything absolutely trashed.
My heart sank. My blood ran cold. I was in disbelief.
The bedrooms in particular were completely ransacked. They opened every single little box and cupboard they could. “Shopped” through my clothing rails, stole every precious jewellery piece; including my deceased dad’s watches, Granny’s pearls and earrings etc. Each and every piece of jewellery. Watches. Hats. GHD, Straighteners and even my hairdryer. All gone.
My laptops, tripod, memory cards, back-up externals, back-up back-up externals. All gone. In fact every thing and anything they could grab. They stole all my handbags, a shocking number to admit now of 35 handbags and must have piled everything in there and into our large travel suitcases.
I felt absolutely violated. They’d even ripped through my bed covers and stolen lingerie. I kept telling myself to be grateful that I wasn’t home and no one was harmed. Which is so, so true but it did none the less shake my world up. Especially as insurance is refusing to pay but that’s another story. Bottom line all those things are gone and the very bottom line is that they truly are just material things.
The frightful thing is less than a week later they tried to break-in again, perhaps thinking insurance had paid out? Ha ha for them. Some security had been upgraded and the attempt was visible but not successful. This has instilled a further fear in me though and let’s just say a sleepless night is nothing new at this point. Security has since been quadrupled and I can finally say that was are secure.
Still, one starts to question everything and everyone. Yes they have images of the cars (GTI’s) and the people who broke in. They are certain is was a syndicate however as the cars were definitely not cheap cars and the criminals knew exactly what was high value and what to take and what to leave sans a pair of MR P earmuffs I picked up for R20. Seriously, why would they steal those?!
The same week I went through a break-up as well. After four years I finally felt enough is enough and am so much happier. It does feel like a deeper lose because ofter four years sharing so much and aside from being partners, we were also the best of friends to silence. It has been difficult yet necessary. Sometimes things just stop working.
I titled this a Break-in, a Break-up and a Breakdown. The breakdown part is a bit more complicated. I felt stripped completely last month. I felt extremely low. But also it felt like a necessary purging. Like a phoenix I am now ready to take on more and conquer more life goals. Yes, I am still suffering from quite a bit of anxiety and I’ll post about that next week but for now the focus is on dealing with things one step (stiletto) at a time.
Megan Kelly says
thinking of you Abs.
Charlene says
There isn’t much anyone can say but I am Sending lots of love and strength your way XXX
Bronwyn says
We are all thinking of you. There isn’t much we can do (if there is let us know…and by us I mean the blog community) but let you know that eventually things will be okay and then really good again. I think horrible things happen so we can learn something from them down the line or force us to make a change. Things will be better. Hang in there xx
Prettifulblog says
I always believe that we are given bad things but only what we can handle. Which just means that someone out there knows how strong you are as a woman. Stay strong and keep your head and heels high!
Candice says
I can’t believe what happened to you its absolutely terrible! I’m so sorry that this happened I have been robbed a few times but never had everything I owned taken from me. Stay strong xxx
Wenchy says
I’m really sorry to hear about your experiences this month. It is all very unsettling. 🙁
Moipone says
Wow it is like a chain reaction the break in led to your realization that its time to breakup with what does not bring up happiness and the breakdown it was your cleansing period now your are ready even a stronger you. Such is life and mostly I am so glad your were not home when the break in happened. Stay strong sending lots of hugs and love
Taryn says
Aah Abby! I feel so terrible for you! When it rains it pours! 🙁 Give me a shout to hand out, you know where to find me xxx
ChevsLife says
So sorry to hear about your break-in and break-up. “Like a phoenix I am now ready to take on more and conquer more life goals.” I believe that you will!! All the best.
Sindy says
I am so sorry to hear about this. May u find comfort in hope that all will be well in due time. I hope they arrest the robbers
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Laura says
Gosh! How very scary 🙁 I am sorry that this happened. Strength over the next few weeks
Amber Shannon says
Oh my dear… I am so sorry to read your startling news and change in relationship status… Jeez… sounds like you are already thinking positively, but I imagine there’s still a lot of pain you are feeling… time does heal all, and soon enough, you will feel much better… just keep your head up and know that the universe balances itself… so good things are coming your way!!
♥
Amber
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Robynne says
So sorry to hear this! Terrible news but you will come out of it stronger and fiercer 🙂
Nadia says
Sorry to hear that you’ve been having such a tough time 🙁 Hope insurance comes through, at the very, very least. Lots of hugs!
Cassidy Taylor-Memmory says
Sending you strength!
x
Liezel Malherbe says
So horrible Abby, it is really lucky you weren’t home. But I know the feeling, it is completely violating.
candice ying sun says
how horrible Abby 🙁 sorry to hear that